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Oct. 3rd, 2008

black crin


(no subject)

How do I talk to my partner about norms in their other relationships that bother me, to the point that they have a negative impact on my relationship with them?

Sep. 30th, 2008



Toronto-based poly-friendly therapist needed...

Okay, so...
I need to talk to someone about some stuff that's been going on in my life for the last little while. Seems easy enough, right? Just crack open the Yellow Pages & pick one, right?
Well, I suppose, in theory, it should be, but it's not.
For starters, I'm broke. And I don't just mean, that I don't have the cash to go out drinking, but that the choice between groceries & rent is a difficult one some days. This means that I really don't have a budget that can stretch a whole heck of a lot to include therapy.
Also, as you may well have guessed, I'm poly.

My questions is as follows: Are there any free &/or seriously cheap poly-friendly therapists in the Toronto area?

*fingers crossed*

Aug. 14th, 2008



some questions...

I've been lurking for a while, but i am in a bit of a tough situation and i wanted to ask some questions that had been on my mind as of late.

In a situation with multiple partners who are all affectionate with one another (as opposed to a V arrangement), how do you define primary and secondary?

How do you define need of a partner?

i have more but im not sure how to phrase them.

Jun. 12th, 2008

Tennant and Tounge


(no subject)

(Xposted to polyamory)

Hi, longtime lurker, first time poster, etc etc... I have a question about a good-idea/bad-idea.

There's a guy I met through an online dating site a few weeks back (met him before, but that's immaterial) and started talking to him. His profile at the time said "single", but after talking to a mutual friend, I discovered that he was, in fact, in a relationship and monogamous. Of course, this only comes after I've thought myself into a bit of a crush on him. We get along online quite well, but I can't quite tell if there's a flirting undertone to his conversation or if he's just being really warm. I don't want to do the thing where poly people disassociate themselves from mono people because they're not on the market, but I also have no idea what he's thinking and if it's a good idea to keep talking to him/ hang out with him.

Help? thank you!

Jun. 2nd, 2008

hot pink red smile


Coming out as poly to your child...help?

My husband and I have an almost-8 yrs old boy. We opened our relationship just 2 yrs ago after 14 years of monogamy, and decided at the time that he was too young to be concerned about adult relationship issues, so we haven't openly discussed it with him. Any extramarital relationships we've had have been couched in the language of "friendship," and sleepovers have essentially been censored from his awareness by managing our timing with his sleep schedule. Our intention has always been to come out to him when he was old enough (based on whenever he started asking questions), but he's a quiet one, our boy, a thinker and not always an asker...and there has been that part of me that craves deep honesty (as most poly people do) that has disliked the idea of hiding this aspect of ourselves from him, which it seems like we're doing.

My question is not *whether* I should, but HOW...how do I break the ice on this one? He's an intelligent kid, and I want him to know that both of us hold the support of his emotional and physical well-being as being a primary and sacred purpose in our lives...I don't want him to see our extramarital relations as taking attention away from him...OR that "keeping it secret" means we are ashamed, which we're not.

Jun. 1st, 2008


(no subject)

Does anyone know of a *good* poly-friendly relationship counselor in/near Seattle?

Mar. 8th, 2008

south park


Poly question

Can anyone offer any advice, or point to any websites, on how to make a polyamorous household work? I am about to move house, and I'm moving in with two of my three partners. We're a quad, three girls and a (very lucky LOL!) guy.

Feb. 10th, 2008

clubbing, goth, industrial, metal


APPLE Festival - Festival for Alternative Parents and Parenting

I am organising a festival for Alternative Parents and Parenting to be held in Melbourne, Australia. Time and Venue yet to be determined. For more information go to http://applefestival.makeforum.org and please leave your input.

Thank you

Jan. 11th, 2008



dating a couple

I'm not in a relationship right now, but I'm curious. What advice can you give me about dating a poly couple? Just so I know.

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